late Betty Bethards
was widely known as a spiritual healer,
meditation teacher, psychic and mystic. She helped many people find meaning in the
cycles and stages of life, including the transition called death. She was well-known in metaphysical
circles as a very wonderful and spiritual person who was blessed with a
One of her more unusual claims to fame was that Elvis Presley died while
reading Betty's book Sex
and Psychic Energy in the bathroom. Concerning her own near-death experience, Betty explains, "After my first death
experience, I lost all fear of dying. I realized that life and death are part of a
continuum of being. Then I began to find real meaning of my life here on
Earth. Death is nothing more than leaving the body, just like we do every
night in the dream state. We all leave the body at night. If you jerk as
you are falling asleep, it's a bad take-off. If you dream you are falling
, it's a bad landing coming in. If you awaken but can't move your body,
you haven't fully merged with it yet. Just take a few deep breaths, relax
and you'll be fine."
You can read
more about Betty
and her psychic abilities at her website.
On July 30, 2002, Betty herself made the transition herself through the door called death. Although she has left this world, her
teachings will live on.
The following pages are excerpts reprinted by
permission from Betty Bethards from her book, There is No Death,
in which she
gives her description of what happens
when we die. Other books by Betty are The
Dream Book, Seven
Steps to Developing Your Intuitive Powers, From
My Heart to Yours, Be
Your Own Guru, and Techniques
for Health and Wholeness.
Bethards' Near-Death Experience
experience with death challenged all my old beliefs about the nature of
reality and why we are here in the first place. I learned that if we are
ever to come to terms with the meaning of our lives here on Earth, we must
understand the meaning of death. Only then can we see it with a total
perspective, fitting all the pieces of the puzzle together. Otherwise,
nothing makes much sense.
I returned home
one night from a bridge game with a burning sensation in my chest and went
right to bed. An hour later I awoke to find myself hovering over the bed
about two feet above my body. A voice said to me, "You're going to be
very sick with pneumonia. Get to a doctor.
doctor visits which did not help her, she ran a temperature of 103 to 105
degrees and was on the road to death.]
Suddenly I was
twenty feet across the room. Everything I considered "Betty" to
be - memory, personality, senses - was looking back at that shell on the
couch. I thought, "Gee, she's sick. I don't want to go back."
Then a very
gentle voice said from behind me, "You don't have to go back, but
this is death if you choose to stay."
I had a body
which appeared the same, was wearing the same clothes, and was raised
about two feet off the floor. I wasn't frightened at all, but felt
wonderfully enveloped in peace. I knew then how Jerry had appeared to me
ten years earlier. It was as if I could see things clearly, and knew that
there was no such thing as death. I realized then that one never dies, but
changes vibrations, and goes on living and learning on other levels.
I really want to
go back. But then I started seeing pictures of my four children flash
before me. It was a tricky way to get me to make up my mind to return to
the Earth plane and finish what I was supposed to do. I was fine with
seeing each child, knowing they could take care of themselves without me,
until I saw my eighteen month old son. I knew he still needed me, and at
that point I made my decision. I had to go back.
As soon as I
thought this, the voice said to me again, "Unless you take an
antibiotic within the next twenty-four hours, you will no longer have a
choice of whether you wish to remain on the Earth plane."
It was after
this experience that I knew there was no death and that it wasn't the way
I had been taught to believe. I didn't know how it was, but I was
determined to find out. I had to wait two years before the teachings began
coming to me.
period of time, Betty became more and more psychic until she was able to
communicate with her spirit guides.]
Same For Everyone
When the soul has been exposed to the opportunities it chose for a particular lifetime, it
is allowed a release from the physical body. The soul knows when the time for release has
come. Death is easy - life is hard work.
Death is not the same for everyone. It
depends upon how you have prepared yourself during that incarnation, how old a soul you
are, how evolved your awareness, and what lessons you chose to learn through the death
experience. You may have chosen to learn courage and to build strength through a physical
death with suffering. People who die slow deaths from such things as cancer or strokes are
often givers who have never learned how to receive. Their souls may choose a slow death in
order to allow others to give to them. But you can learn your lesson and move beyond
the need for pain and suffering in dying. You may, in fact, have chosen a fast and easy
death. Either way it is not a punishment, but a process of growth for both you and those
around you. It allows you and others to work through difficult situations with kindness
When you approach the time of death, often you're able to see relatives who have crossed
over standing around you. The etheric body slips easily in and out of the physical,
and many times a person near-death talks to beings who are invisible to others. Doctors
for the most part think you are hallucinating, but you're not. Whether death comes rapidly
or slowly, your loved ones know ahead of time when you are coming, and are there, prepared
and waiting, happy that you have been released.
Tunnel and the Light
First, you may experience your whole life flashing in front of you much as a drowning
person reports this experience. Next, you will go through what appears to be a dark
tunnel or dark tube which has a very bright light at the end. Most entities are just
drawn to the light without anyone saying, "Go to the light." It's a past
soul memory of having left the body many times, and knowing what to do.
This light is from higher astral levels, and
you follow it to the one you have earned. However you have lived your life on the
Earth side determines how high you can go into the light on the other side.
There is nothing to fear. You leave your
body every night as you enter the sleep state. There is no difference. You cannot be
Fears are within, and this is why you must
work to release yourself from fears on the Earth
plane, because you will carry these same
fears over to the next dimension. As above, so below!
Around the Living
Some people may want to hang around their old surroundings on Earth
rather than go on to
discover for themselves the beauty and wisdom which is offered to them on the other side.
This may take a long time, but they are coaxed along slowly. Nothing is forced on a
soul, neither attitudes nor understandings. This is why we are always counseled here
on Earth never to force our beliefs on another person until one is ready to hear
them. The free choice of every individual should be acknowledged.
Loved Ones and Teachers
When you die you are greeted by loved ones first so that you may understand what has
happened. There is a big celebration, like a birthday party, heralding your arrival.
Family and friends who have gone on before you are there to celebrate your arrival.
There is always good at the time of your
cross-over. Even people who have lived lives of selfishness will know and understand
the rejoicing. Whatever you have sown you are going to reap in terms of structuring
your experiences and lessons which continue on the other side. But the first few days of
cross-over (as you know time on the Earth
plane) you are allowed to be with your teachers,
and those who have loved you in the past. You are able to see those you left behind and to
hear their thoughts and words. The first six weeks we stay very close to our loved ones on
the Earth plane.
You are given glimpses of things you expected
to see in order to bring you comfort. You may briefly see a teacher you worshipped in
your lifetime: Jesus, Buddha, or another guru, according to your expectations. After the
first seventy-two hours, however, you are gently brought out of many of your illusions and
shown that you have not landed in an ultimate paradise with gold paved streets. Of
course you could choose to create these for yourself on this plane, but once you truly
understand you would most likely choose to be around that with which you felt most
If you don't believe in God or an afterlife,
you will probably be kept in a sleep state for the first two to three day period. You
will wake up in a beautiful meadow or some other calm and peaceful place where you can
reconcile the transition from the death state to the continuous life. You are given
teachings in the hope that you do not refuse to believe that you are dead.
On the other side you see things with a
clearer, more objective nature, but you are not given total knowledge because you would
not understand it or be ready to use it, any more than while you are here on
Earth. We are given knowledge only as we are ready to receive it, whether we are in
or out of the body.
After the first six weeks the soul meets with what may be called a loving board of
directors. It is composed of teachers and other higher beings who have walked with
you. These beings help you review your past life, to begin to look at what was
learned and not learned, and what you wish to work on or do from this point. No one judges
you, and this is important to keep in mind. You are the one that judges yourself and
decides what is best for continued growth.
You will be given teachings, training, and
anything you need to help you prepare yourself for your next incarnation. But this is
not given immediately. You can choose your own pace and need not be hurried through the
realms of the next
realms. It may take centuries for your soul to know what is best
for your development once you return again to a physical body. It may take a great
deal of reflection before you determine a purpose and direction for your next sojourn on
Earth. Since we reincarnate in groups we usually wait 80 to 120 years before we come
Also, as part of your training, you are
allowed to watch people on the Earth plane to see how they handle situations when they
reincarnate. Very few people in a physical body realize that their behavior is a
teaching ground for those who are out of the body.
As you are ready, and as you choose, you will be shown your past lives. If you do not
believe in reincarnation it may take a long time before you are able to deal with this.
Eventually, you must learn to understand yourself in a continuity of growth over many
lifetimes. You must recognize all the strengths you have built and all the karmic
ties you have created which must be dissolved.
By the time you are given the privilege of
reviewing all past lives and integrating the knowledge learned, you will have reached a
state of total objectivity. You will feel no remorse or condemnation, but will see it as
merely a review of why situations occurred and had to be worked through.
The record of your life is very
private. Only those who have walked with you as teachers are allowed to see what is
called your akashic
(or life) record. If during your lifetime you ask that a psychic
tune into this record, he or she will only be given a minimal amount of information from
it which is particularly relevant to your immediate problems or concerns.
You, too, can tune into this record through
meditation and get insight and clarity on the problems you are dealing with. Your own
attunement is much more accurate than asking a psychic or someone else to tell you about
yourself. This builds up a dependency. We may need clarity or help at times, but
should never develop a dependency on others. Our whole purpose is to gain strength and
learn how to make our own decisions.
Your religious beliefs have little to do with what you experience in the transition from
one realm to another, except that you would be allowed to see briefly the teacher or guru
that you followed. Regardless of cultural or religious beliefs, you will have the same
basic experience at death (just as mystics of all great traditions attune to the same
universal energy). What counts is what comes from the heart, not what one professes
to believe. It means nothing whether or not one was baptized, for example, or whether
one has various other rites administered. How ridiculous to rely on meaningless words!
The true meaning of baptism is an initiation
of the spirit, an opening awareness to the God consciousness. People receive this inner
baptism when they are spiritually prepared.
You will not suddenly be sitting at the feet
of a man with a long white beard called God. God is within, whether you are in or out
of the body. Your awareness of the God force will not be greater on the other
side. If you insist upon searching for God, you will do this for awhile until you get
the idea that you are following an illusion. We must go through at least four more
realms beyond the astral before we could even begin to understand the energy of the God
force. God is love in all religions, so the more we live love the closer we are to
Idea of Purgatory
Catholics understand purgatory as a place or level of consciousness one goes for further
understanding. It is an intermediary state that gives one the opportunity to develop
further clarity. At first it is like being in fog, just as many people walk around on the
Earth plane in a fog. They don't have the clarity to understand how they are setting
If there has been much negativity during an
incarnation, or a suicide, one must spend some time contemplating what has happened.
It is a holding place where souls who are
confused, who do not want to let go of their earthly
attachments, or who choose not to
grow will remain until such time as they allow themselves to be released to flow once more
into the light.
Purgatory is a place of your own making. We
see souls who are punishing themselves here on the Earth
plane. This continues after death
just the same as it would if they were still in the physical body. Many people must suffer
in order to feel worth. When they finally learn this is a negative number they are
running, they can move on.
Meaning of Hell
What about the reality of a place called hell? Hell is a level of consciousness which can
be experienced in or out of the body. It is a lonely place where one is not allowed
to be in communication with anything other than one's own negativity.
Souls do not enter this level unless they
need to experience it for their growth. Many people who commit suicide will have to go
through this hell of their own making in order to become aware that this is not what they
are striving for. The soul must learn that it does not have the right to take its own
life, that it cannot kill, it cannot hurt other people; nor can it judge others for we
have no knowledge of what they came back to do and learn.
Many people at one time or another have
experienced this plane. Alcoholics going through the DTs and people on drugs, may also
see it. It is a plane of total darkness where we must confront the fears we have built
within our own minds. Understand that fears have no reality unless we choose to give them
reality. As soon as we are able to meet them directly, to face them, they
dissipate. This lower level is not for one's punishment, but rather to provide the
opportunity to confront and move beyond the negativity created by oneself.
The hell fire mentioned in many traditions is
symbolic of the "kundalini" energy
(Holy Spirit, God energy, or Creative energy)
that dwells within the seven energy centers or chakras within man. Fire is symbolic of the
cleansing and purification of the soul.
The struggle between higher and lower self or
what some call God and the Devil causes growth, until finally the negativity or the
destructive elements are completely overcome.
questions and answers I have received information about what it is
actually like to be on the other side. First, my channel has pointed out
that the laws are much more protective. We need no longer be exposed to
both good and evil, for we have already experienced that. We see the bad
only if we choose to. Those who are living in harmony will not be imposed
upon by the ignorant, but can visit the lower planes to help another if
they choose to do so.
For example, if
you loved someone who is on a lower vibration than you are, you are
allowed to visit anytime you choose by simply lowering your rate of
vibration. This may help the entity greatly by encouraging self-love and
growth. However, the entity will need to incarnate again on the Earth
plane to test out these new lessons, because it is the Earth experience
that determines your stage of evolution.
unions of souls on the other side, and marriage as such is optional. If
couples prefer to remain together they may do so, as long as their
interests and growth are taking them in the same direction. If they choose
to go in different directions, there are no hurt feelings. There is no
possessiveness or demands. You are free to go your own way, in your own
time, at your own choosing.
couples will be reunited after death, and may choose to stay together if
they want to, provided they are on the same level of vibration. This is
free will. If you have been married three or four times, you will find
that you will want to be with the one whom you truly love. It could even
be someone from another incarnation. You will be with those you love, and
there is a total merger which is a much higher experience and a deeper
love bond than anything you can know on the Earth plane.
merger is like stepping inside one another's auras, a total blending of
energies. It's a way of expressing love and sharing. What you know on
Earth as a sexual relationship takes the form of a higher merger of souls.
There is no need for sexual organs on the other side unless you choose to
have them. For this merger of energies is far superior to the physical
mechanics of the sexual experience. This merger is not limited to husbands
and wives, but may be experienced by any two souls who are loving and
"Birth in the physical is death in the spiritual. Death in the physical is the birth in the spiritual." -
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